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Treating Postpartum Depression – My Story


*Disclaimer:* This is my story dealing with Postpartum Depression. What worked for me, may not work for you. Postpartum depression is a very serious illness and should not be taken lightly. Please consult your doctor, before attempting to treat it on your own.

Becoming a mother is my biggest and best accomplishment of my life and I have loved every minute of discovering the person my daughter is becoming. I wouldn’t trade being a mom for the world, however, there is a side to motherhood I was never expecting to experience. Mommas, I’m about to get real with you. When postpartum depression hits, it hits hard.

I was 23 years old when I had my sweet baby girl, Hayvn. My husband and I had been married for just under two years and were still getting the hang of the whole marriage thing. I lived 538 miles away from my family and hardly ever saw them. My aunt that I was very close to had passed away suddenly, just a couple months before, and on top of that, my husband had decided to make a career change.

About a month postpartum, my husband had received a job offer in Nevada, about 7 hours away from where we were currently living. We felt good about the offer and the pay was good, so we decided to take it. Looking back now, I was so emotionally unprepared for what this endeavor would entail.

A requirement for this new job, obviously, was to relocate. Seeing as the new position was in a different state from our current residence at the time, we went into it know that we must move, however we were shocked at how soon it would need to happen. His new job gave us two weeks to find a place to live, as well as have my husband complete his training (which involved 10 hour days, every week day) and then a 10-day business trip on the East Coast, one week after that.

Since all of these requirements came at once, the packing fell solely on my shoulders as well as learning to care for a colicky newborn, and maxing out at 4 hours of sleep each night. To say I was overwhelmed would have been an understatement. Not to mention, uprooting our family from a place we had called home for the past four years.

Through this entire process, I had lost myself. I had become a shell of the happy, bubbly girl I used to be. I was sad, lonely, and had begun to shut the world out, including my husband. I lacked energy, and found little pleasure in doing anything. The only thing that brought me any sort of happiness was when my little girl would look into my eyes and smile. Before I knew it, months had passed and I had hit rock bottom.

What Are the Signs?

Treating-Postpartum-DepressionComing from experience, you may not even know you have postpartum depression. Having a baby, especially your first, throws life into overdrive. Everything is new, you have stepped through this portal into a new realm. Motherhood is no easy task and starting out can seem extremely overwhelming.

Overnight, you’ve gone from a single being, responsible for only yourself, to becoming a source of life to another human being. You are now a caregiver, responsible for supporting the life of a tiny, helpless, human. On top of that, throw in insane amounts of hormones, where the levels fluctuate immensely over a short period. No pressure, right?

While you’re in the eye of this hurricane, life becomes a blur. You fall into this hollow, mundane routine of simply surviving the next 24 hours, rinse, and repeat. You forget who you are and who you used to be, through sleepless nights, confusion, learning the needs of your newborn, and heaven forbid your baby has colic.

So what are the signs? (Consult your doctor right away if you have any of these symptoms)

  • Feeling sad, hopeless, empty, or overwhelmed
  • Crying more often than usual
  • Worrying or feeling overly anxious
  • Feeling moody, irritable, or restless
  • Oversleeping or being unable to sleep when your baby is asleep
  • Having trouble concentrating and making decisions
  • Frequent feelings of anger or rage
  • Losing interest in activities that are usually enjoyable
  • Suffering from physical aches and pains
  • Eating too little or too much
  • Avoiding friends and family
  • Having trouble bonding with your baby
  • Persistently doubting your ability to care for your baby
  • Thinking about harming yourself or your baby
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Treating Postpartum Depression

Sound familiar? Recognizing the signs, can help you identify how you are feeling and knowing you are normal, and that life won’t be this way forever. Mommas, I am here to tell you, life gets bet

ter. It gets so much better.

I remember being that shell of a person and thinking it would never end. I remember feeling like this was my “new normal,” but guess what? I was wrong. Life with my baby has opened my eyes to how beautiful everything is, and has given me that purpose I was desperately searching for.

I beat my postpartum by relearning who I was and by embarking on a journey full of growth and introspection. Through my journey, I have discovered my potential and who was hiding behind the veil of depression. With perseverance, and the love and support of my family and husband I was able to find joy in life again.

Take Some ‘Me’ Time

Moving away from my friends and even further away from my family, after only one month postpartum, definitely made me feel isolated. Everything was new, and I don’t do well with change. I was learning how to be a mother, trying to communicate with my newborn, adjusting to my new body, and settling into a new community almost 1000 miles away from my family.

At a time like this, the last thing I thought I needed was alone time. But actually, the opposite was true. Before we made the move to Nevada, my OB/GYN had told me that I must incorporate an hour a day for myself, and an hour a week for me and my husband alone, without Hayvn.

I didn’t put much stock into this advice until about 2 weeks postpartum when my husband forced me to take some much-needed R&R. He would insist on taking the baby for an hour and letting me do whatever I wanted in the meantime, which, let’s be honest, most of the time I would just take a nap. But, this hour alone really helped me reset and to feel refreshed.

Still, a few months later, after the big move, he has still made sure to give me that hour. Every day he comes home after work and will take Hayvn off my hands and let me do whatever I want. This has had a huge impact on my attitude. That short time away to clear my head has helped me to rejuvenate my tired mom brain, and to see the optimistic side of things instead of constantly feeling in need of a break.Treating-Postpartum-Depression

Take some time for yourself, and don’t feel guilty for a minute. If you don’t have a partner, ask a family member or a trusted friend, and take an hour to decompress. You will come back to your baby with a refreshed mind and a better outlook, ready to face any challenge motherhood throws at you.

Develop A Passion

Treating-Postpartum-DepressionWhen I wasn’t napping, I would take these much-needed ‘me’ times to find hobbies or interests that sparked some sort of life inside of me. I have always been drawn to artistic releases, basically anything that allows me to be creative. That’s when I found photography.

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Ever since my husband and I got married, I had always wanted to get into photography, but being newlyweds, a new camera, and all the equipment that comes with it, just wasn’t in the budget at the time. When we had our daughter, I started using my smartphone to take countless pictures of her, and my husband saw my interest in photography peaking.

This last Christmas he surprised my by getting me my first ever DSLR camera and since then I have discovered a passion inside of me I never knew was there. Upon taking my camera out of the box, I started watching YouTube videos on photography. I found myself spending the hours Hayvn was sleeping, on photography.

Treating-Postpartum-DepressionMy mind had become immersed in being the best I could be, which resulted in self-confidence and fulfillment. Since discovering I had postpartum depression, I had realized I had been seeking validation that no one could give me but myself. Diving into a new hobby had set me free. I no longer needed validation because I was an eyewitness to my own progress. Seeing each photo get better and better was proof to me that, my hard work was paying off.

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Developing a passion with photography helped me redeem that self-worth I thought I had lost. It unveiled the haze of my depression and gave me energy to do something again. It may not be photography for you, but finding something you can be passionate about can ignite that spark you need to get back to feeling like yourself again.

Set Goals

Treating-Postpartum-DepressionI remember when I first had Hayvn and my husband had gone back to work. He would call me at 2 o’clock in the afternoon and I would just barely be getting up and ready for the day. I remember feeling so overwhelmed, like I was never going to get the hang of this mom thing, and feared I would never get anything done.

I remember looking around my house and seeing what looked like the path of a giant windstorm with debris strewn throughout. I am a very organized person and a creature of habit. My messy house was starting to make me uncomfortable in my own home, yet I felt there just wasn’t enough time in a day to do anything about it.


So I decided to dig deep into myself, and figure out what helps me stay motivated, and for me that is making lists and setting goals. At first, my goals were almost comical in the sense of how small they would seem to any other person. Items as simple as making the bed. But, that’s okay. A goal is a goal no matter how small. In fact, the smaller the better-at first.

There was a sense of fulfillment I found when crossing a task off my list. This, to me, meant that I had accomplished a goal I had set. Just the simple fact of knowing that I was capable of getting something done, even if it was a minute task, helped drive to me to eventually accomplish bigger goals.

Achieving a goal you have set, lights a fire and motivates you to do more. Starting small makes the goal achievable, and acts as a stepping stone to embarking on bigger endeavors. Make a list of three things you want to accomplish each day, once you have managed to accomplish all three of those tasks for a week, add a new task to your list. Do this for a month and the results will amaze you.

You Can Beat Postpartum Depression

Treating-Postpartum-DepressionNo matter what the circumstances are, entering the world of motherhood can seem overwhelming and it happens all at once. You’re flung into this tornado of information. Trying to learn the needs of your newborn feels like trying to learn a new language without a translator. The amount of sleep you’re getting- or not getting- begins to feel like a torture tactic used in war.

But, through the haze of all this confusion, is light. In your arms lies the most precious of all beings, your new baby. You have created this miracle, and you are their source of life. What a wonderful feeling to be so needed by someone who upon meeting, you instantly adore more than anything. Embrace the immense love you feel towards your new baby and carry that through this storm.Treating-Postpartum-Depression

Find the time to take care of yourself and don’t be afraid to confide in those that are close to you. Find something to be passionate about. Develop a hobby or learn something new, try something that might even scare you. These are the things that make us feel alive when we feel the life is being drained from us.

Set goals, big or small, and watch in amazement at how you accomplish them. There is so much to be said for the feeling that comes from crossing a task off a list, no matter how small the task.

Becoming a mother is an amazing gift that we, as women, are blessed with.
You are stronger than you think, and you can beat your postpartum depression. Take it from me, life gets better, and you learn as you go. Embrace the chaos and find humor and joy in the little things.

I love hearing from my mommas, and I want every momma out there to know they are not alone in this journey. Please know this is a safe space and feel free to share your thoughts, stories, or advice.






  • Chris

    My partner faced around 16 months of Postpartum Depression that started only about a week after my youngest son was born. He was actually the first child she had had, and she was a successful businesswoman from the London CBD,

    Anyway, the change in life, and the realisation that life would stay changed had a terrible effect on her, and we were all scrambling about tying to make things as easy as possible for her. 

    But babies need their mums…dads just won’t do in the initial weeks!

    It’s great to see an article like this that covers the subject from a personal point of view, as I know how dark these feelings can be!

    • Madysen

      Hi Chris, 

      Thank you for sharing your story! It’s so nice to hear from the father’s perspective, because postpartum depression affects them too, only in a different way. I can’t imagine how you felt trying to be there for your wife and probably feeling helpless. It’s admirable to see how much you care and the efforts you put in to making her feel loved and getting her back to feeling happy again. Sometimes all it takes is the feeling of being loved and heard. 

      Thank you for sharing


  • Todd Matthews

    This article can definitely relate to a variety of individuals, even beyond postpartum mothers. I say this because we all know cases of people who may have once been someone in a respective field or passion and were on the verge of becoming something or someone even greater. Then, life happens, or I should just say a life event happens.

    A year passes and they’re stuck in this trap that they’re convinced is their new normal, or as you stated, a shell of who they once were. It’s rock bottom, and it sucks to be in such a position. However, there is hope, and sometimes that hope is simply rediscovering a lost passion, or finding one that’s even greater. A passion that makes us want to wake up each and every morning, to be one step closer to both our short and long-term goals and in some cases, even achieving those goals and then some.

    • Madysen

      Hi Todd, 

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It definitely goes beyond postpartum depression. These feelings can happen to anyone at any point in their life. By sharing my story and what worked for me, I hope it will shed some light on others going through depression. 

      I am so glad that my tip on finding a passion resonated with you. It is something that really helped give me that push to start feeling engaged in something again, and therefore finding happiness and purpose. Becoming passionate about something really ignites a spark and helps bridge the gap between a depressive state, and feeling happy once again. 

      Thank you for sharing. 


  • charles39

    I am not a mother and I will never be one but I can feel where you are coming from and the importance of it all let me say depression is not anybody’s friend, especially for new mothers and hence the importance of trying to avoid postpartum depression.  I will share this article on my wall so that all mothers can see and learn from your experience.

    • Madysen

      Hi Charles,

      Thank you for stopping by. Although you are not a mom, I love hearing thoughts from a new perspective. It sounds like you are familiar with depression and have seen the adverse affects it has on people. By raising awareness of postpartum depression, it can help other people fighting different forms of depression as well. I appreciate you sharing this post with your friends. I hope that by sharing my story I can help at least one person to not feel so alone in this process.

      Thank you


  • ajibola40

    Thanks for writing this article on treating  postpartum depression. I found this article full of educational things about postpartum depression. I like the fact that you are talking from experience as a mother and that shows you have really gone through all of this. There is no joy that is greater than being a mother to someone. Motherhood comes with a lot of sacrifice. I know many will find all the tips in this article on how to treat postpartum depression useful. Thanks

    • Madysen

      Thank you for the kind words, and for taking the time to read this post. I want to share my story to help all mothers know they are not alone, and to see the beauty in being a mom. I liked what you said, that motherhood comes with a lot of sacrifice, and I just want to add that it is all totally worth it! The reward is so great. 

      Thank you for sharing


  • Adamuts

    Thanks for writing out this lovely article and I must say its a must for everyone to read and digest..this article explains deeply the feeling of depression and how to overcome it,symptoms of depression is highlighted in this post. Developing a passion and setting of goals are the possible ways to be set free from depression. 

    I gained Alot from this post and I hope it will be of help to me.  I would love to bookmark and share it with my friends. Best regards

    • Madysen

      Hi Adam, 

      Thank you for sharing and I am so glad you found this post helpful. My intention with sharing my story is to impact and uplift people who are going through something similar. I appreciate you sharing this with your friends. 

      Thank you for the kind words. 


  • Mikay2019

    Very interesting to know that postpartum is actually a thing. I have read about it once but I am yet to see anyone actually experience it. My neighbor was going through a phase after giving birth to her second daughter but we had always suspected that she was unhappy with the sex of the baby because she wanted a male child. Can it be that she was having postpartum because  she didn’t get what she wanted?

    • Madysen

      Hi Mikay, 

      Yes postpartum is definitely real, and it’s a struggle so many women deal with. As far as being unhappy about the gender of a baby, this is a very real thing. This subject seems to go under the table because women who experience this, feel so much shame and guilt.

      I want everyone to know this is a normal phenomenon. There is actually a name for this, it’s called Gender Disappointment. Now, this is not to say they don’t love their unborn baby, more-so they are dealing with the loss of the gender they hoped the baby would be. 

      This feeling can turn into postpartum depression when it becomes mixed with the guilt of having Gender Disappointment. This is a completely normal occurrence, and it is okay to mourn the loss of the picture that was painted in your head. It does not mean you love your child any less. 

      The best thing you can do as her neighbor is be there for her through this tough time and let her know that what she is feeling is normal. 

      Thank you for sharing, hope this helps. 


  • Alblue

    My close friend has recently gave birth to her first baby, but I think she has postpartum depression too. Her emotion become unstable and she rarely eat anything. Her husband must travel afar for a long time due to his work and he is VERY busy. She is alone with her baby in the house and working remotely. From the point of view of close friend, do you have any suggestion for me to reduce her depression? Her situation is… kind of hard. Thank you for your answer.

    • Madysen

      Hi Alblue, 

      Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry to hear about your friend, after having my daughter, my husband was sent away on a 10-day business trip and I was very lonely. I was able to book a flight to go and stay with family while he was away. If she does not have the luxury of going to stay with family, I would recommend to you, just be there for her. Take an hour out of your day to go and chat with her to help her know she’s not alone. All I wanted during this time was a shoulder to lean on, and to feel like I was loved. As I mentioned in this article, offer to help watch her baby while she takes an hour for herself. The best way you can help someone battling postpartum depression is to let them know you care. Hope this helps. 

      Best wishes,


  • Shyla

    This post really speaks to me because I suffered from postpartum depression after I had my daughter. I felt hopeless and full of dread about so many things out of my control. My hormones were in total control of my psyche. I took some time to think logically and realize that I was going through something. These tips are so helpful and I hope that other women who are suffering or may suffer from it get to read this.

    • Madysen

      Hi Shyla,

      Thank you for sharing your story, I know it’s not easy, and it takes a lot of courage to talk about dark times. But I am so glad this was helpful to you. Postpartum depression is not something to be taken lightly and you can’t fully understand its affects until you go through it.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I am glad you were able to overcome postpartum depression.


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